Seven Things I Would Tell My Younger Self…

Looking back over the past few years, I see many areas where I could have been much more efficient, friendlier, and a better person overall. Here are the top 7 things that I would tell myself…

1. Stop Trying to be Perfect
This one would probably be my number one suggestion to myself. I have always been an extreme perfectionist. I have gotten much better now about setting my priorities and not letting my obsessive, perfectionist side get a hold of me. If you are not careful you can drive yourself crazy trying to do everything perfectly, but the truth is that life is never perfect. It never has been and never will be.

2. Finish What You Start
This idea goes along with perfectionism. We have all been there. We start some project and think we will be committed to the end, but after that original surge of motivation is gone, we quit. As President Trump would say, “Never, ever quit.” You basically have to look at quitting as just not being an option.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3. Be More Outgoing
Communication is such an important skill in any work environment, yet so many people struggle with it (including myself). Learning to be a strong communicator can have a big payoff! Here are three starters:
1. Smile
2. Choose words wisely
3. Think before you talk

4. Stop Being so Self-conscious
I can remember several situations in my life (especially at church events) in which I thought that everyone was looking at me. If I made a mistake during any sort of game or activity, I thought that everyone must surely be thinking that I am clumsy. The fact is that everyone is self-centered at the core and for the most part just worrying about themselves. As Brian Tracy would say, “Everyone is always tuned in to their favorite radio station, WII FM (What’s In It For Me?).”

5. Stop Worrying About Everything

You could plan out every aspect of your life down to the smallest detail, but that does not mean it will happen. Things will come up every day that are not expected. I am not saying that you should not plan out every day. In fact, planning out every day is the mark of a very successful person. What I am saying is that you need to be flexible, and always have a “Plan B” in mind.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6. Arrive on Time
I wish I had learned to be on time sooner in my life. Being on time boosts your confidence because you have time to work out any last minute kinks and it also makes you look like you “know what you’re doing.” There are certain events that I have learned that it is best to very early for. Your first impression is so important. If you are early for your first day of work, coworkers will subconsciously think that you will always be early for work. Likewise, if you are late on your first day of work, coworkers will subconsciously think that you will always be late to work.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

7. Think Independently
Learn to think for yourself and form your own opinions. As children, we were taught that whatever mom and dad said was the right thing. While this true for the most part, there comes a time when you need to have your own opinions and ideas on topics. You should be able to confidently answer the question, “So, what do you think about this?” in regards to politics, religion, family, etc.

 

What are some things you would tell your younger self? Let me know in the comments below!